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|Moving away from your goals: Impulse Problems||Moving towards your goals: Controlling Impulses|
|Hanging with kids with no college goals
Who are your friends? Do they get you closer or further away from your goals?
|Hanging with kids with realistic college goals|
|Hanging with kids with substance control problems
Do they get drunk often?
|Hanging with kids who can say no to substances|
|Hanging with kids who have academic problems
How serious are they about graduating?
|Hanging with kids who are good students|
Like work, just being there is half the battle - would you skip going to work?
|Go to every class|
|Not doing homework - it doesn't matter
It really does matter. Learning builds sequentially through studying and completing assignments
|Giving homework your best|
|Having trouble saying "no" to bad choices
Learning to say "no" is hard. People may be disappointed in you. It gets better over time
|Learning to say "no" to bad choices|
|Getting drunk especially Thurs. though Sun.
A dangerous trend - bad for academics, your health, dangerous behaviors while drunk
|Drinking, or not, but not getting drunk
Having fun without getting drunk
|Messing with substances
They're illegal. What are the consequences if caught?
|Saying "no" to offers of substances|
Becoming a real problem. Can create tremendous problems with debt
|Not gambling with money|
|Real trouble controlling impulses
Doing what you "feel" like doing rather than thinking through the consequences results in a lot of trouble
|Counting to "10" strategies - learning to put the brakes on impulses - don't make immediate decisions around risky choices|
|Physical fights to solve anger
College is about increasingly learning to use your brain to solve problems
|Using words to solve anger|
|Engaging in unprotected sex
Think disease, pregnancy
|There's only one form of sex - safe sex|
|Engaging in bullying
Especially easy with the internet
|Don't post anything that you wouldn't want said about you|
|Not participating in any sport, group, service learning program, etc.
This stuff is just for "geeks"
|Getting involved is a great way to forget about your own troubles and help you to stay focused|
|Lying, cheating and stealing
It's all trouble and can get you dismissed
|Honesty is the best policy
What would your "mother" say?
|Driving drunk or getting in the car with someone driving drunk
"they won't catch me"
|Not operating drunk or getting into the car with a drunk driver - really bad things can happen|
|Having weapons of any sort on or off campus
"They're illegal but I won't get caught"
|Saying no to theses choices|
|Blaming others for your problems
'I've got problems because of my parents or my teachers.
|In the end, you look in the mirror, and know that the decisions and choices that you have made are responsible for your successes and failures|
- List your friends. Describe your relationship with them. On a scale from 1 to 10 with 10 being the greatest help in achieving your goals, give each friend a number.
- On a scale from 1 to 10, with 10 being the highest, how would you rate your decision making abilities?
- What's your plan for either continuing to make good decisions or making better decisions